5 Reasons Why Relationships/Marriage Is NOT a Scam
1️⃣ Partnership, Not Perfection
Real relationships are built on growth, support, and partnership—not on flawless people.
Marriage is not about finding flawless people but about choosing to build together despite imperfections. True love is tested in the daily commitment to grow, support, and walk hand in hand. When two individuals embrace partnership, they learn to celebrate strengths and carry weaknesses with grace. It’s not perfection that sustains a relationship but the willingness to forgive, to communicate openly, and to keep choosing each other even when it’s hard. Real love thrives where patience and understanding become stronger than pride.
2️⃣ Love Still Exists
Amid all the heartbreak stories, genuine love still thrives in many healthy marriages.
In a world full of broken promises and stories of betrayal, love may seem rare—but it still exists in marriages where faithfulness, respect, and sacrifice are honored. Genuine love is not about fleeting emotions but about the choice to stand with one another in joy and in pain. Many couples today still embody the beauty of lasting love, showing us that commitment can overcome storms. Love that is grounded in truth and nurtured daily becomes a testimony that healthy, thriving marriages are not just possible—they are real and alive.
3️⃣ Purpose Over Performance
Marriage can be a powerful platform to fulfill purpose together—not just a romantic performance.
Marriage is not a stage where partners act to impress one another but a sacred platform for fulfilling purpose together. When two people unite with shared values and vision, their marriage becomes more than romance—it becomes destiny. True love calls couples to build legacy, raise strong families, impact communities, and glorify God through their union. Performance may fade with time, but purpose endures. When partners pursue God’s plan hand in hand, marriage becomes a powerful force that goes beyond feelings to shaping the future
4️⃣ Healing Happens in Safe Love
A safe, loving relationship can be the most healing environment for past wounds.
A safe, loving relationship is one of the most powerful environments for healing. When love is expressed through patience, kindness, and security, it creates space for past wounds to be acknowledged and restored. In marriage, vulnerability becomes strength because partners know they are accepted as they are. This safety allows broken hearts to mend, old fears to fade, and new hope to grow. Love that nurtures instead of condemns can bring wholeness where there was once pain. True intimacy is not just physical—it is the healing of souls in a safe embrace.
5️⃣ God Ordained It
Marriage, when done right, reflects God’s design for unity, companionship, and legacy.
Marriage is not just a cultural institution; it is God’s divine design for unity, companionship, and legacy. From the very beginning, God saw that it was not good for man to be alone and created a partner suitable for him (Genesis 2:18). When done right, marriage reflects the mystery of Christ and the Church, a covenant of love and faithfulness. It is meant to be a source of joy, fruitfulness, and spiritual growth. In God’s plan, marriage is not merely about two people—it is about a divine partnership that brings glory to Him and blesses generations.
Controversial Yet Kingdom-Minded Points
Marriage Is Not a Prison, It’s a Platform
Many think marriage kills freedom. Truth: the right marriage multiplies freedom by giving structure, stability, and vision.
Marriage Doesn’t Fail—People Do
The institution itself is not broken. What fails are selfish, unhealed, and unprepared individuals stepping into it.
Love Is a Choice, Not Just a Feeling
Feelings fade, but covenant commitment sustains. A kingdom marriage is built on decision, not dopamine.
Marriage Doesn’t “Complete” You
Only Christ does. A partner complements, not completes you. Expecting marriage to heal emptiness is a setup for disappointment.
Marriage Demands Work, Not Luck
It’s not about finding “the one” magically—it’s about building consistently with faith, forgiveness, and effort.
Divorce Culture Is Not the Kingdom Standard
The world normalizes “try and dump,” but kingdom marriage fights for reconciliation, healing, and covenant.
Submission Is Not Slavery
In the Kingdom, submission means mutual honor and purpose alignment—not oppression. This challenges both feminist and chauvinist extremes.
Marriage Without Mission Becomes Misery
Two people walking aimlessly end up frustrated. Without a shared kingdom mission, marriage reduces to bills, kids, and survival.
📖 Scriptural Roots (AMP):
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Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 – “Two are better than one, because they have a more satisfying return for their labor; for if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion.”
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Ephesians 5:31-32 – “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined and be faithfully devoted to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is very great, but I am speaking with reference to [the relationship of] Christ and the church.”
