The Reason You Don’t Need to Invest in Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend
Today we’re talking about something real and probably controversial — Why you shouldn’t be investing in your boyfriend or girlfriend. Let’s break it down.
1. You’re Not Married — There’s No Commitment
Yet Dating is not a covenant, it’s a phase of discovery. You’re learning who this person is, not building an empire together. Investing emotionally, financially, or spiritually in someone who hasn’t committed to you long-term can set you up for deep disappointment. Don’t give wifey/hubby privileges on a girlfriend/boyfriend title.
2. You’re Building on Uncertain Ground
Relationships end — and that’s not always bad. But when you’ve poured your money, time, and dreams into someone who walks away, you’re left with emotional debt. And unlike banks, there’s no refund.
3. People Value What They Work For
If you do all the building, providing, and pushing, they may come to expect it — not appreciate it. People tend to value and respect what they’ve earned, not what they’ve been handed for free.
4. It Can Create Toxic Dependency
When you invest too much, you blur the lines between love and responsibility. They may start relying on you instead of growing themselves. You’re not their savior — you’re their partner. If they’re not growing with you, they’re draining you.
5. Your Focus Should Be on Purpose, Not Proving Yourself
Too many people invest in relationships trying to prove they’re “the one.” The truth is, the right person will see your worth without you having to fund or force it. Invest in your purpose first. That’s what attracts the right person.
Final Thought: Don’t confuse love with loyalty to potential. You’re not obligated to build with someone who hasn’t promised to stay. Date wisely. Invest wisely. Love with boundaries.
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